Good girl conditioning is:

🧠 Conditioning girls and women to not ask for too much.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to not want the most that life has to offer.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women should not do extraordinary things that will put her above men.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to not challenge men because she’s out of place.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to forgive the most heinous violations against her.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to not ruthlessly and viciously stand up for herself.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to be victims just to blame her for being a victim.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to not speak out of her anger and frustrations, even if it’s killing her inside. 
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to not demand change or respect from others.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to be grateful for the bare minimum.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to live in shame for being abused, sexual, and assertive.
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to accept the bare minimum from people (especially men).
🧠 Conditioning girls and women to accept the disrespect, because responding in like is “unlady like”.

The Good Girl conditioning makes good girls believe that there is some sort of reward for laying flat enough for people to walk over you and to allow people to treat you like trash and discard you. Mean girls get what they want from men, which is why good girls try to humble the mean girls instead of learning from her. She refuses to remove the good girl conditioning and embrace the bad bitch conditioning.

Even for some women being a Queen means to be a “good girl”. But a bad bitch? A wild woman? A Goddess? Doesn’t play by the rules of patriarchy. Doesn’t use her self-righteousness to silence and shame other women who demand more than TRASH ass treatment. The Good Girl has accepted the hate from patriarchy and her place as less than men. She will not challenge men and women who are the gatekeepers of patriarchy. Instead she is also a gatekeeper, and will war with the women who are liberated.

Trying to get a good girl to confront her core beliefs and recondition herself into her divine, powerful nature is a choice she has to make for herself. Perhaps the more the bad girls show her how happy and free she can be, and ignore her attempts to humble you, they’ll get their wake up. However, the more the good girls are kicked, stomped, and destroyed into madness, she’ll hopefully come to her own conclusions about how the good girl conditioning is not serving her. (I guess the toxic peope can serve some sort of purpose of Transforming women.)

So consider what I said here and identify if you are a good girl. Has it been serving you or destroying you? What will you do to save yourself?

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